Breakups can be emotionally challenging experiences that affect individuals in various ways. Regardless of the nature of the relationship—be it a long-term commitment, a divorce, or a casual thing—ending a connection that once held love and significance requires considerable time and emotional strength.
During such difficult times, seeking guidance and advice can be immensely beneficial. This is why I'm here! My expertise can help you rebuild your self-esteem, regain confidence, and eventually re-enter the dating scene with renewed empowerment and optimism.
Save the Drama for your Mama: Have a good time. And please, don’t be taking any date too seriously. I mean, haven’t you had enough drama in your life recently? Relax, chill out, and enjoy just being smiled at. Flirting, laughing...and being spoken to sweetly. Have a little (or lots) of fun being out and about meeting all types of people. It’s ok to be picky. Just enjoy!
RESPECT: This is a must-do, and you must do it! Don’t be a people-pleaser, not this time. Set boundaries and stick to them. Respecting yourself and others shows that you are genuinely confident and secure. Bonus!
Deep Convos: Enough of the small talk. Who has the time or energy for that? Let’s make a real connection that will help you gauge if this person is worth date number two. Dig deep! By “deep,” I mean diving into issues that matter. See who they are, what they feel and think. Do they want more children to love the theatre...how do they feel about global issues? Who cares if the weather is 55 degrees and sunny? Ask tough questions and show that you care what they think.
Mirror, Mirror: You are fabulous. You are great and exciting (Yes, you’ve got this!) Now, forget about you, and let’s focus on your DATE. The one sitting across the table? Believe in yourself; trust that you are AWESOME- If you don’t, you’ll be self-conscious and lose your authenticity, preventing you from being YOU. Everyone loves a confident, self-assured woman. Be honest, and your date will feel comfortable being herself, too. It's a win-win.
YOU are Enough! Come as you are. Show up and be enough. Be authentic, be honest, and be YOU. At this point in your life, you cannot change for anyone. You are enough for the right person. The wrong person is not your person anywhere.
Get off your APPS. GET OFF YOUR APPS. You know, your apps? Like your iPhone. Your cell phone or whatever gadget you have these days. Put it down! Stop texting or chatting. Stop buzzing or beeping. Pick up the phone and CALL your date. Even better, make E.Y.E. contact. And don’t you dare pick up that phone during dinner, not once– Unless it’s the kids,
Put on a Happy Face: If you want to win your date over, it is simple: SMILE. Show those pearly whites. Nothing says “sexy” like being greeted with a smile. And by the way, smiling is contagious. Even if you feel a little shaky, flash a smile, and the whole world sees one thing only: CONFIDENCE.
Positive Energy: Nothing says confidence like a positive attitude about dating and an overall enthusiasm for where you are in your life. Divorce has knocked you down a few rungs, but you’re back! And you are ready to get out there and meet new people! And no, not because you’re lonely or your Mom and Sister told you, “It’s that time.” But because you are looking to have some fun! Now, pick out a cool outfit. Blow-dry your hair, and let’s do this thing! Confidence is SEXY.
Remember, going through a breakup is never easy, but it's also a time for growth and self-discovery. Take this opportunity to focus on yourself, set new goals, and embrace new experiences. Surround yourself with friends and loved ones who support you, and don't be afraid to seek professional help if you're struggling to cope. Remember, healing takes time, but you will emerge stronger and ready to embrace new beginnings. Stay hopeful and open to the possibilities that lie ahead.
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